Birkman Methodology

If Birkman can shine a brighter light on our true selves, illuminate some ways we are both similar and distinct from, and help people see their value, then we have good reasons to believe we have accomplished our mission. ​Relationships are simply about figuring out a mutual language, developing trust, increasing intimacy, telling the truth and revealing yourself deeply.

Core Values are traits or guidelines that you consider not just worthwhile, they represent an individual’s highest priorities, deeply held beliefs and core fundamental driving forces. Have you defined your core values and shared them in your relationship?

Many of us have spent a lifetime trying to be what we’re not, feeling lousy about ourselves when we fail, and sometimes even when we succeed. We hide our differences when, by accepting and celebrating them, we could collaborate to make every effort more exciting, productive, enjoyable, and powerful. – Martha Beck

The reality of life is that your perceptions – right or wrong – influence everything else you do. When you get a proper perspective of your perception, you may be surprised how many other things fall into place. – Roger W. Birkman, Ph.D.

Relationships

Relationships are simply about figuring out a mutual language, developing trust, increasing intimacy, telling the truth and revealing yourself deeply. A recent survey reported that the average cost of a wedding in the United States is $25,200.00. In addition, countless hours are spent with dresses, flowers, cake selection, receptions details, etc. But how much time do the soon to be couple spend on discussing their core values and exploring areas of compatibility as well as areas of potential conflict? If you are planning a wedding please think about spending a couple of hours with Betty​ on how to make ​your marriage happy and fulfilling!

In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don’t just ‘get along’ – they also support each other’s hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose in their lives together. – John Gottman

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor that spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love it snot something we give or get, it is something we nurture and grow. – Brene Brown

Being open to the concept of setting and receiving truth and boundaries with each other will assure that you will be on the same page with regard to both values and personal growth. – Dr. Henry Cloud

Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery. – H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Understanding

Betty has spent over a decade working with corporations, couples, and individuals to achieve goals and to problem solve through deeper self-awareness. Failure to achieve personal happiness, satisfying relationships, and job success are a result of our own self defeating behaviors. No matter how “stuck” you may feel, The Birkman® will reveal your strengths as well as ways to build resistance to self-defeating behaviors.

When we practice mindfulness, we’re stepping outside our own thoughts and into our partners, allowing us to empathize and feel what it is like to be in his or her shoes. It helps build bridges that will increase our connection and intimacy, lower stress, lessen conflict and increase our overall happiness. In short, it makes our partner feel heard, prioritized and nurtured. – Stacy Kaiser

Finding out who you are is not simple. It takes a lot of hard work and courage to get to know who you are and what you want. – Sue Bender

Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power, or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect. – H. Jackson Brown Jr.

All of my life, I have wanted to lead people to an empathy space, to a gratitude space. I want us each to be awake to our full potential, to find our calling, and to summon the courage to live it. Imagine a world where we all lift ourselves up, and then reach out and lift someone else. And so together, we rise. – Oprah Winfrey

If you understand others, you are smart. If you understand yourself, you are illuminated. – Lao Tzu

The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be towards others. – Eda LeShan